Jacob has declared that this is the best birthday party ever, which is my judge on whether I've done a good job or not. I don't care about the adults or even the other kids too much, as long as the birthday child was happy and was satisfied with the celebration, I've accomplished what I've set out to do.
There are many birthday parties we've been to that are a little "rich" for my blood. I prefer simple. My kids pick the theme and most of the activities. Sometimes they need a little prompting and I'm happy to give suggestions but I always give many suggestions so they feel it's THEIR party not mine. I've also found that it's much cheaper. I feel the need to feed everyone and make sure everyone has this and that, my kids just want to have fun and it is much easier, stress-free, and cheaper to go their way.
We had a great time, so did the adults, and the other kids. Of course, we always only invite family and my best friend and her kids, which we consider family anyway:)